How to make happiness a priority

We experience life through emotions.

You could be surrounded by the most luxurious things.

Live in the most astonishing place – if you don’t feel good inside all the beauty in the world does not matter to you.

Or when you have reached some long aspired goal or fallen madly in love suddenly you are bouncing through your routine and your everyday life seems more colourful and charming.

How to make happiness a priority. So, essentially, your life is about FEELING.

When I realised this, my priorities changed. Feeling good is now top of the list and I rearranged my life accordingly.

The straightforward adjustment was to choose a career that fulfils me and is aligned to my values.

And not one because I studied the subject. Or one that people agree on is a “safe option”.

Also, pretty self-explanatory was to go for a guy that loves me as I am – and not just that, he cherishes me.

And thinks I’m the coolest person in the world (at least, that’s what he tells me ).

Instead of finding the most “mysterious” (aka emotionally unavailable) man in the room and hoping that, yes, the relationship will eventually start once we have worked through his problems.

Much less obvious was the realisation that I do many things because they make me look “good” in the eyes of others.

Everyone raised catholic will know exactly what I am talking about.

Things like being nice to relatives even if they don’t treat you kindly.

Wearing skirts “because that’s what girls do” and being the problem solver for everyone.

But being seen as the “good one” is not the same as feeling good.

Very far away actually. So I had to change course and this is how I did it:

I had to come to peace with that not everyone will like me prioritising my own happiness. There will be some conflict.

Being “good” is a social concept and it is far more important that I am living in integrity with my own values.

How to make happiness a priority

Becoming comfortable with others disagreeing with my decisions helped me a lot.

Also, going for long term happiness does not mean to avoid negative feelings.

For example, in order to create a succesfull and abundant Life Coaching Practice I have to come out of my comfort zone – to share about my adventurous journey and the things I believe in – and to praise the unique gifts I have to give to the world and to sell it with love.

Even if that makes me a bit jittery now.

Veronika Maria, The Lunar Practice
http://www.thelunarpractice.com

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