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negative automatic thoughts

Your ego aint your amigo

Life is incredibly busy for the average person these days and it’s no doubt that from time to time this leads to feelings of overwhelm and indecision.

If your thought patterns are like those of a great number of us, when feeling stuck, you may find yourself saying

“I don’t know what I want any more”.

Actually, you do know, but you’ve most likely become trapped in a repetitive way of thinking that only serves to reinforce all your fears and puts you in a state where you’ve analysed till you’re paralysed.

Don’t be too hard on yourself about this; we all do it at some point or other.

Psychologists have even come up with the acronym ANTs or Negative Automatic Thoughts to explain the army of negative self-talk we face.

There is an alternative to this negativity, but most of us are blissfully unaware or have forgotten about it.

Your ego is the voice that will be telling you of all the things that could go wrong, how you’re not good enough, you’re not ready – it really is those ANTs in action!

Instead, your heart is the calm, reassuring voice that whispers kind words and soothes your soul.

Your ego doesn’t want you to hear this voice and rampages so loudly that often we forget our heart even has a voice.

So next time you’re facing a barrage of negativity in your head, remember

“your ego ain’t your amigo, your heart’s the place to start”.

Be still and ask

“What would my heart say?”

You might be surprised.

Top tips for living from the heart

  1. Stop! Take time out, even just a few minutes to be quiet, away from distractions and actively question where your thoughts are coming from.  Are they from a place of fear or a place of love? Recognising your thought patterns is the first step to changing them.
  2. Write! Grab a pen and literally empty your head of all your thoughts. Journalling doesn’t have to be done in a particular way, it’s just a release of all the jumbled up thoughts you’re chasing around your mind.  But to shift the negativity, once you’ve unloaded, try writing what your heart has to say and you’ll find some much more inspiring, encouraging thoughts are in your head too.
  3. Live your values! When you really know yourself, your values and what you stand for, it’s much easier to make decisions from your heart, knowing you’re being true to yourself.  If you’ve never thought about your values, it’s worth taking some time to explore these.  You can practice living by them to test out whether they feel ‘you’.

About the Author

Jane Newport is a heart centred life coach with a particular interest in life purpose and creating flow in our lives. Recently graduated from Pure Coaching Academy, she works from Staffordshire, coaching in person or via phone and video conference. Mb: 07421 222163.

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